Where Does Personality Come From? The conscious mind is what you are aware of at any particular moment. This includes your present perceptions, memories, thoughts, fantasies, and feelings. Working closely with the conscious mind is what Sigmund Freud called the preconscious, the memories you are not at the moment thinking about but can readily bring to mind. The largest part of the mind is the unconscious. The unconscious includes all the things that are not easily available to awareness. Many things that have their origins in the unconscious, these things we are not aware of, however they are inside our mind.
I do agree with Freud's concepts of the conscious and unconscious. However, I feel that Freud's ideas of sex and aggression, and pleasure and pain are untrue. This is basically that sex and pleasure are good, and aggression and pain are negative and everything a person does revolved around trying to move away from the pain / aggression to be relieved with sex / pleasure . Karen Horney, another psychologist, concluded that personalities were shaped from basic needs and whether or not those needs were met as a child.
I agree with this very much. The need for affection and acceptance is very important for a child. A child who grows in a loveless, hostile family is much more likely to become hostile adult than a child raised a caring, affectionate family. I have concluded that there are stages that a person goes through in their lives. Erik Erikson, a Freudian, unfolded personality into eight stages. In every stage there is a developmental task which can be dealt with in two ways.
For example the first stage, usually met during infancy, is trust-mistrust. In this stage the infants significant relationship is with its mother figure. Here the child will either learn to have hope and faith or if it is grown into a negative environment the infant may experience sensory distortion and withdrawal. This will affect the child for the rest of its life. I do not believe that a personality inborn. Some traits, physical and mentally are shaped by heredity, but the personality is mostly learned.
The environment plays a major role in the making of a personality. I have created five stages which all people must go through in their life. Birth-Early (ages 0-2), Early-Child (ages 2-12), Child-Teen (ages 12-18), Teen-Adult (ages 18-30), and Adult-Elder (ages 30-death) are the five stages. There are three types of people in the world: Fuchsia, Cerulean, and Chartreuse. A person's color can usually be identified during its Child-Teen stage.
A Fuchsia person is the overachiever. A Cerulean person is an equally balanced one. A Chartreuse person is the underachiever. The events which take place in a person's life during the first two to three stages are which cause the color to form. A person may be a combination of the colors and be more of one in a certain area then another. In the Birth-Early stage a child first has many of the physiological needs that Abraham Maslow describes in his theory.
This includes the needs to be active, to rest, to sleep, to get rid of wastes, and to avoid pain. It is also very much like Erikson's first stage in life where an infant must have a strong relationship with a mother figure who will nourish the child. In the Early-Child stage a child learns from imitation, or social learning. Albert Band ura is responsible for the "Bobo Doll Studies." During these studies a young woman is left in a room with a bobo doll. If the woman played nicely with the bobo doll the child who was watching her did also when he was left alone with the doll. However, if the woman hit the doll and treated it poorly the child did as well.
This is known as modeling. A child will do what they see. This will be learned mostly by parents and adults in the child's life. In the Child-Teen stage the major relationships a person has are with its peers.
This is where a person will try to impress others and has the need to be perfect, and accepted. Alfred Adler talks about these needs in his theory. Adler believes that there is a motivating force which causes a person to strive towards perfection in their lives. This is where the color of a person is identified. A Fuchsia person, the overachiever, may have become this way because during its life it was pressured to be better than everyone else, and constantly striving to be best. A Cerulean person, the balanced person, may have become this way because during its first stages it had the right amount of affection and an equal amount of freedom.
A Chartreuse person, the underachiever, was probably neglected as a child or brought up in a negative environment. In the Teen-Adult stage a person begins their life on their own; finally moving away from family and peer pressures. A person may now get a career and a family. There are many decisions a person has to make. For example, a Fuchsia person might go to a university, get married, and support kids all the while having a very high standard of living. A Cerulean person might learn a trade, start a family, and live in a middle-class neighborhood happily.
A Chartreuse person might have a low paying job that requires little or no education, and start a very dysfunctional family. In the Adult-Elder stage a person is shaped by the decisions which he or she made in the Teen-Adult stage. A person will either be in regret or rejoice about the decisions he or she made. A person will either be glad with the decisions they chose to make in the last stage and be glad they lived the life they did. Or a person may be upset and angry with the choices they made. The overachiever, Fuchsia, will probably end their lives with many regrets and upsets; sorrow for not spending as much time with their family, or for being too harsh of a parent.
Where the equal balanced, Cerulean, would end their lives happily because of the down the earth good-willed decisions they have made. Chartreuse, the underachiever, will probably end their life the same way they began their Teen-Adult phase, not caring much about anything. I feel they are also the most likely to get divorced, and spend their final years alone. My theory is based off of Freud and many other major psychologists and their theories on personality development. I think I was raised a Cerulean, and that my parents and family have pushed me hard enough to make me know what I want out of life, but not too hard where I feel pressured that I must succeed in everything. In some areas of my life I do fall into the Fuchsia and the Chartreuse areas.
I hope I can balance out the areas of my life that I fall into Fuchsia and Chartreuse and become a good successful adult. My goal in adulthood is happiness, and I do feel that is attainable with the right balances of love and concern as well as pressures both negatively and positively.