When I think about what makes someone a good friend, Think about all the characteristics of my own friends. My personal definition of a friend, is someone who is always looking out for me, and will help me if I'm in trouble. Friend has to be someone I trust and who trusts me in return. Another important characteristic in a friend is someone who I can talk to, and make me laugh.
One of the most important traits of a friend, is someone who will help you if you need it. One personal experience Ihad with this was when my friends, Mark, Steve, and I well out driving around late at night. We were on our way home from going up to my camp at the lake, it was four in the morning, and we were all tired. I was driving my car and we had just gotten off the Northway when I ran over a glass bottle and my tire popped.
I didn't know what to do. We had no money, and were stranded. Millions of thoughts were racing through my mind: what would I tell my mom, how could we get it fixed, and most importantly how could stay out of trouble. My friend Mark called up his brother to come and tow the car. His actions that night made me realized that a true friend would takes risks for each other. A strong friendship also depends upon mutual trust.
If you can't trust each other then it is impossible to establish a strong relationship. In the past, I have been able to tell my friends personal feelings, and know that they would keep secrets to themselves. One time my friend and I were riding on my friend James' lawnmower and we hit the side of the garage. We promised each other that we would take it to the grave. Even though we should have eventually told someone, we kept it to ourselves. Another quality I like to have in a friend, is someone who can make me laugh.
A perfect example of this is my friend Bob. Some of the comments he would say would be so outrageous; I couldn't help but laugh. One time I traveled to Montreal with my friends, and the entire four-hour drive spent laughing. Bob and I sat in the back seat cracking jokes the whole time.
This is important because it is good to know that regardless of the mood, or situation I'm in, a good friend can make me laugh. When I asked other students their thought on friendship, I noticed that my opinion was similar to others. Everyone was drawn to people who they can just talk to for awhile and not become sick of, or bored with. A lot of people thought that someone who will stand up for you makes an excellent friend. I agreed with most of the responses I was getting from my friends and family. My friend Mike said " someone who has a lot in common with you.' Mike also told me about an instance when he met someone snowboarding at a mountain and instantly became friends with him.
Mike and his friend went snowboarding every chance they could get. To this day they still go snowboarding together every season. Even though it does help if you have a lot in common, I don't feel that common interests are very important. One of my closest friends, Steve, is the complete opposite of me. Regardless, we still can just talk about random things and we both have a good time. I will talk about my interests, and he will talk about things he is interested in.
Now that we have been friends for so long, we have drawn each other to our opposite past times. My friend Dan replied to the above question with '[a friend is] someone who is loyal to you and respects you.' I had never thought about how important respect was to a friendship; it is clearly one of the most important qualities. If someone respects you that means they genuinely think you are a good person, and to me that is very important. Based on my own personal experience and asking my peers questions, I was shown new qualities in friends that Idon't usually look for. I compared these qualities to ones I look for in a friend. I came to the conclusion that a good friend is someone who has the same feelings on what makes a good friend as you do..