Achievement Of The Personal Life Goal example essay topic

Index 1. My self as a unique individual page 2 1.1 My path page 2 2. Future page 3 2.1 My goals page 4 3. How to achieve my goals page 4 4. Evaluation page 5 Bibliography page 7 1. My self as a unique individual Since when I was little I've always considered adult all those people standing around me taking decision and making choices about everything.

I've always found fascinating all those people, every single person able to make up his mind by himself. I just thought of it as some kind of power, and I grown up feeling good any time I could show to others that I could choose on my own. Actually this "power" has been growing only in the last few years, precisely since my second year of University. I'm now twenty years old, and it's easy to conclude that I simply needed time to grow up in order to be able to make up my mind about anything. In fact until last year I used to follow every single direction my parents would give me.

I'm now very grateful for the path they had me follow and I do realize that I actually take my decision based on my parents teaching and this makes me proud: it shows that I really am grown up if I can learn and use my knowledge on my own. Now I do consider my self unique and especially individual. 1.2 My path Following my mother projection in 1999 I went to Los Angeles for one year of exchange studies. I left everything I cared for, my parents, my dearest friend, my house, my dogs and my cat. I was used to adapt to every situation, I moved eleven times so far and I changed eight schools, but changing continent wasn't so easy. It was not the house or friends, but leaving my family was the most difficult.

I was delivered to a very nice family, with which I still keep in touch. The experience was wonderful and I've learn very many things about differences of faith, culture and background, but I was very happy to go back home. Some how, though, I was not able to relate to the environment as I used to. I could see different things, I could think differently and I was more mature on interacting with my family members. At least this was what I thought.

I obtained an American High School Diploma, which wasn't to be validated in Italy. I thought of my self back to high school again, but I really couldn't see me there any more. I closed that chapter of my life and I wasn't able to front an other year. Not going back to high school meant leaving my friend again and moving towards a new experience, a new environment once again. I wasn't sure at that time, but now I know that I was in fact ready to begin University. I applied for an English University based in Italy and they were happy to accept me.

I met many new friends, older than me and very different. It was hard at first, but I loved it. I kept in touch with my old friends, but I had a bright new life to live in a new city. I learnt how to deal with pretty much anything, starting from handling university exams to taking the responsibility of attending lecturers diligently without parental control. I found my way, through a very rough path.

I first started the European School of Economics because it was my gateway from old "teen-life", but then I realize how much I loved economics, I good I was at it and I actually started to think of my future. My last split way was choosing were to end up my university life. I was to decide weather I had to start again in public Italian University or taking a degree in England. It wasn't easy as it might seem. On one side I saw my adult life actually starting, on the other I saw my "easy" life continuing.

Finally I decided to take the courage to definitely grow up and leaving the nest. I consider my self as resourceful, which I learnt from adapting so much to every situation. I see my self as mature and extremely sociable, due to continuous changing. I used to confront very hardly with my parents, but now I learnt from that how to deal with authorities. I know I have still very much to learn, but now I am ready to learn. 2.

Future I can't imagine a very far away future, but I like to program my next few years. I plan very many events and I consider all consequences they might lead to. I'm very exited about living my future and can't wait to become the person I want to be. 2.2 My goals Just like everyone I know, I want a happy ever after in which every my desire is granted: beautiful family, great career and money security. During my school career I found my way in economics.

Yet I would love to be in my father's business, medicine. He is a doctor and although I won't be able to practice in that field, I would still love to be able to share my interests with him. I found very interesting studying the pharmaceutical environment, and all possibilities for me to enter it. My goal short term is to get a job in Glaxo-Wellcome, a great international pharmaceutical company based in London. I am aware that with my knowledge I won't be able to hold a high position, but I'd be happy to gain experience and earn useful knowledge that can take me to leading positions, in a long term plan.

For what it concerns my personal life, I definitely see my self married and possibly with kids. But as right now I am not able to concentrate my efforts on achieving this goal. I'm not ready to work on interpersonal relationship when I need to focus on my self and my personal growth. 3. How to achieve my goals As I said before, my father is a doctor, and it might be easier for him than for me to reach some one's desk with my CV. I did my dissertation on Glaxo-Wellcome, which gave me a bit of knowledge that they could even recognize in me.

Once I obtained an interview I will know I will totally be on my own, since no one will be able to help me making the right impression. This is what I'm more afraid of: people thinking something about me that is not true, and I fear I wouldn't be able to obtain the chance to prove them wrong. Achieved the first goal, the job, I would be working on my long term goal: my career. I would work hard and learn fast. There is no real strategy for a woman who wants to hold a man position.

Sadly, I know my way to achieve my goal is to postpone the achievement of the personal life goal. Although I hope I will be able to balance both my personal and professional life and achieve all goals I've planned. 4. Evaluation Developing a new mind set: the "career ambitious individual: Jane O'Leary The career development of successful women: Barbara White The model I used is no news, is what every woman has to follow if they chose career over personal life. It is awful to have to decide which one is more important, but I consider my self lucky since I am very young and I have much time to work on both aspects of my life. It seems very hard to believe, or very sexist but the truth is that for obtaining equal opportunities women and men has to behave in the same way.

Sadly, it's up to women assuming the man role, putting the family life in the shade. Personally I don't believe being a woman will compromise in any way my plan. Society values are changing and I'm sure I'll be advantaged by all the work that other women has done in the past for creating the present. A present where I grow up thinking of having the same right as every one else to achieve my goal and simply adapt my state of mind to it. In my very short experience I must admit that I found difficult to plan my future steps.

I would always be considering weather the situation I would put my self into would allow me to be able to achieve my personal life goal. Maybe I am more calculating and I must admit that my male friends are not that considering about the future consequences of their choices. In fact I consider this one my greatest weakness, obstacle in following the path of career woman I chose. I'm not willing to give up completely to a potential family I could create, and my character leads me to take decision based in great part on emotions. I'm willing to postpone the achievement of this goal, but I realize that this could be an obstacle on my way to success.

The model I'm following fails in this sense. In fact it doesn't include eventual dedication to my family although it does admit the creation of one. In fact, this threatening presence could jeopardize the career since it would keep me busy in other direction. I am placing career at first place probably because right now I wouldn't be ready for a serious relationship any ways. But I am planning on having one, one day. For me the model, should include a possible development of personal skills as well, and it should be rated based on motherhood as well as leadership.

An other failure for the model in my view is the consideration of a career woman as a woman behaving like a man in order to achieve her goals. I don't consider my self like that. I think of me as a woman who cares very much about her career and is considering some changing on her values in order to achieve her goals. This doesn't mean that my values are rated as "manly". I don't even think, like some have insinuated over time, that women are looking for some kind of independence or revenge over men.

Women are simply taking their place in the society, which have been hold so far by men. This is the third millennium; it's unthinkable that there could still be some role play for career. Men are men and women are women, and they all fight to reach what they aimed for. I want to conclude on the wisest suggestion I could find about developing my personal model of career: "Careers should be accommodated around the reality of women's lives allowing them to make a meaningful investment in both occupational and family roles".

[Hirsh and Jackson]

Bibliography

"The career development of successful women", Barbara White (handout in class) "Developing a new set of mind; the career ambitious individual", Jane O'Leary (handout in class) "La vita dopo la carrier a", Ago stina De Ferrari Ed. Mondadori 1998.