Bully's Parents example essay topic

It was a bright sunny Saturday morning. All the neighborhood children were playing soccer at the homeowners' picnic. There was a new kid on the block; a quiet fellow by name of Mustafa. I saw him sitting with him mother the whole time.

He never came to play with the other children. I automatically termed him a 'mama's boy'. So I invited him to play with us. At first he refused. Ultimately him mother convinced to come and play with us and that we were really harmless and that it would be really good for him.

What nobody else knew was that I did not invite him to play because I wanted to play with him. I only wanted to make fun of him, and for that I needed him to leave his mother's lap. As soon as he came to play I started to make fun of him. On hearing what I had to say about the innocent kid, all the others joined in teasing him. It was the first time that boy had come to play with us and we made him cry.

Now the nickname 'glue Mustafa' (because he was always glued to his mother) stayed with him for a very long time. Eventually he got fed up. He told the other kids and me on many occasions to stop teasing him. He could not complain to anybody because nobody thought it was really that bad.

And so he decided to take matters into his own hands. He figured that the only way he could defend himself was to be part of a gang. And so at the tender age of 14 he was already a part of the 'Iggypura'. Good morning to you all. I want to tell you about bullying little children in school.

Bullying can have a far worse outcome on the student than we could ever imagine. According to Time magazine, approximately 47% of sixth graders admitted to being bullied at least once in five school days. According to news 14 Carolina, victims being bullied may experience isolation and lower grades immediately and in the long run have higher levels of depression in their early 20's and fewer friends. Kids can be surprisingly cruel these days. Sometime the kids pushing another can be an honest mistake. Fights may break out too.

However if they do it is important that the two kids make up and forget the whole issue lest they keep a grudge. According to time magazine, rough behavior crosses the line when it is deliberately aggressive, persistent and intended to scare or hurt another person. Bullying can involve hitting, taunting, name calling, rumor spreading, social exclusion, extortion and insulting emails. According to Dr. Coleman from news 14 Carolina, the only way to eliminate the effects of bullying would be to catch it at the early age.

We all hope to have children someday. According to Time magazine, there are three main step to take if you know you child is being bullied. Listen to your child. Do not blame him or her. Empathize with the child.

Do not under any circumstances ignore the bully. And never tell you child to retaliate because violence is surely not the answer. Report the bully to the teacher. Do not go to the bully's parents as most of the time, they will deny that there is even a problem. Finally, teach you child to be confident and make friends. Explain to him or her that it is really okay to complain if the teasing crosses the line.

What if your own child is a bully and is picking on the other children? Always maintain close supervision of your child. Monitor their activities. Set strict rules about bullying and punish the child if he or she disobeys. Spend more time with your child. Show them praise when they do a good deed.

Explain to them constantly that bullying is wrong. Explain to them that if they were put in the other person's shoes, what they would feel like. More importantly do not demonstrate bullying behavior as a parent. On August 19, 1999 police found Mustafa's mangled body in a storm drain. He was stabbed forty-three times. He was only 16 years old.

The police determine that to be a result of a gang brawl. Nobody cared about his feelings when we were younger. Not us, not his friends, not even his parents. His parents had no idea he was part of the 'Iggypura'. Its hard to imagine the effects of a little name calling. Today I explained you all how deep bullying can go beyond our eyes.

And one day when we all have children of our own, I hope you will take the appropriate action because I know I will.

Bibliography

Lemonick, Michael. 'The Bully Blight. ' Time 18 Apr. 2005: 144-45.
19 May 2005.
French, Jamie. 'Effects of bullying go far beyond school years. ' New 14 Carolina 2 May 2005.