Family Of Tyan Yu example essay topic
Although many people would believe that the men in "The Joy Luck Club" were vindictive, they have shown that they not only are they feeble but that the weak men over power the cruel, and through their actions this statement will be apparent to all. The Jong Family have two key males that fit the description of cruel and or weak men. The first was Tyan-Yu, Linda Jong's first husband. Lindo and Tyan-Yu's wedding was arranged marriage. Lindo's parents were forced to depart their home leaving Lindo behind. Even though she was only twelve years old, Lindo belonged to the family of her betrothed.
The Hangs, the family of Tyan-yu, were very wealthy and took little interest in Lindo which lead to the first impression that Tyan-yu was a cruel man by the way he acted. He and his family made her stay in their servants' quarters and made her perform physical tasks, such as cooking, washing dishes, cleaning, and embroidering clothes. Tyan-yu would make her sleep on the couch lying to his mother so that he would not get himself into trouble which was a sign of weakness on Tyan-yu's part. Lindo proves this by saying "That's when I could see what was underneath Tyan-yu.
He was scared". . (58) Lindo's marriage was miserable, for there was no love in it. Tyan-yu, feeling no emotion for his wife, would not touch her. Matters were made worse when everyone wondered why Lindo did not become pregnant and for this came trouble. Tyan-yu was to much of a coward to make any moves and left it all for Lindo to do herself.
Lindo found out that "it was his fear that made Lindo think he had no desire for any woman. He was like a little boy that had never grown up". (58) Lindo totally changed her view of Tyan-yu from once being terrified of him, to feeling as if she was playing the role of an older sibling. Another important male model that fits with the description of a weak or cruel man was Marvin Chen, Waverly's first husband.
He appeared to possess both weak and cruel qualities. Marvin and Waverly loved one another like married people should, but it wasn't until Waverly's eyes were opened that she realized just how weak of a man Marvin really was. "He chased golf and tennis balls to run away from family responsibilities. His eye wandered up and down other girl's legs, so he didn't know how to drive straight home anymore".
(192) Waverly has finally seen the man she had married and become conscious that her marriage was over. Marvin was not a cruel man for what he had done to Waverly, but weak because he couldn't take the responsibilities and avoid temptations in his own life. In the Hsu family, Rose Hsu Jordan was the first of the women to have a man that was simultaneously weak and cruel. Rose fell deeply in love with Ted, largely because he was so different than the Chinese boys she knew. After dating, they decided to marry before Ted started medical school.
What she had originally liked about him was that he would rescue her and had made all the decisions. From the beginning of their marriage, Ted insisted upon controlling things and Rose was helpless to do anything about it. When Ted "lost the malpractice lawsuit" (126) everything had changed. Ted began to go to her for advice and to make all the decisions which she could not do all the time. They began to fight and Ted would say things like", How the hell did we ever get married? Did you just say "I do" because the minister said "repeat after me"?
What would you have done with your life if I had never married you?" (127) After Ted had said this was his transition from a frail man to a malicious man. He went away on a trip where he landed another woman. Ted filed for divorce and wanted "everything. The house the garden and for it to be all over so he could get married". Wu-Tsing was the husband of Taitai Hsu which was Rose's grandmother. She was Wu-Tsing's fourth wife.
Taitai was not pleased when she was forced to become Wu-Tsing's wife after a evil scheme was carried through by his second wife. Wu-Tsing showed his weakness by allowing the second wife to take control over him. She would use him to her advantage and would get whatever she pleased through evil ploys. She knew that he was afraid of ghosts and that "suicide is the only way a woman can escape marriage and gain revenge". (264) The second wife would fake suicides to get what she wanted from him, and he would give in offering her more than what she had originally asked for. Wu-Tsing needed to learn how to stand up for himself and not give into others so easily.
Lena's husband Harold St. Clair was weak in the sense that their marriage was based on a balance sheet and at any moment their marriage could come to an end. Harold states to Lena: "Well I know our marriage is based on a lot more than a balance sheet. A lot more. And if you don't then I think you should think about what else you want before you change things".
(180) Harold obviously doesn't know what their marriage is based on either, if he did they wouldn't have the balance sheet at all. Marriages are not supposed to be based on how much one person spends, possessions are supposed to be shared equally. Ying-ying St. Clair's first marriage was to a cruel man. She had been tricked into her marriage " I did not understand until six months when I was married to this man and he hissed drunkenly to me that he was ready to kai gwa". (278) Yet she learned to love him in the end. (Until she found out from her youngest aunt that he had left her to stay with an opera singer.) (281) Ying-ying grew to hate this man and in doing so she killed the child inside of her.
He used her and destroyed her innocence. The male roles in Amy Tan's novel The Joy Luck Club have been defined as not only feeble but pitiless as well. They show this through their actions and choice of words. In most cases the men in the novel portrayed weak qualities rather than cruel.
Most of the men just needed to take responsibility for their actions, and to learn to stand on their own two feet and to quit with their cowardly acts. Many women in the novel could not have been where they were if it was not for the male influence. Despite the fact that some of the experiences where bad, it helped to build the characters personality and self image. Past experiences allowed them to grow and learn from mistakes made and or error of judgement.
The men played an important role in all families and helped and supported them in the women's time of need.