Mothers And Their Hypersensitive Sons example essay topic
He wants to write but he's selling typewriters until he gets started" (10). She does not care that he has not truly written anything, but that he has graduated college and that he is trying to get his life on track. She is constantly reminding him that "Rome wasn't built in a day" (11), and she truly believes this about her son; that eventually he will go places with his writing. Mrs. Fox, Asbury's mother, while not particularly glad that he is a writer, is proud that he is an artist and has every faith that her son "might be writing a long book" (90). While not as vocal about how she is proud of her son, she is happy that he is doing what he wants; writing. Thomas' mother was often found boasting about her son to Star Drake.
In the two's first meeting, Thomas' mother tells Star that "Thomas writes history... He's the president of the local Historical Society this year" (123). This statement alone proves that she is impressed by what her son does and what he has become in his life, otherwise I doubt his mother would have mentioned it. A lot of the pride these mothers have in their son's may be due to the fact that, except in the case of Asbury, they are only children to single mothers.
Since they are all portrayed as older women, of course they will have pride in what their sons do, since they have little in their lives to boast about. Yet, it seems to me that these mothers feel their sons can do no wrong in life, which may be a cause of why their sons tend to walk all over them. All three of the mothers also are connected by the fact that their sons have large biases in their minds about them. The boys feel that either their mother did not do a good enough job raising them or that she has disrupted the proper pace of their lives. This is apparent in all the boys but especially confusing in the case of Julian. At the beginning of the story he says "he could have stood his lot better if she [his mother] had been an old hag who drank and screamed at him" (5) yet later talks about how "there was no reason for her to think she could always depend on him" (14).
While he feels that she raised him well, he does not want her to feel that he will be there for her like she seems to have been there for him. Asbury makes it very clear that he feels his mother was the unnerving force that lead to the demise of his life. Upon his death, he wanted his mother to read a letter her wrote to her about "what she had done to him" (91) but thought, "that his mother would not understand the letter at once... he thought she would be able to see that he forgave her for all that she had done to him" (91). This statement, like Julian's is not truly supported in any way.
It appears in both stories that the boys mothers did everything they possible could to give their children the best of life. Thomas, on the other hand, does not feel quite as much observable loathing to his mother and says that he "loved his mother. He loved her because it was his nature to do so, but there were times when he could not endure her love for him" (118). Unlike the other two, Thomas openly admitted his love to his mother, but still felt contempt when it came to Star Drake. All three of these men felt that their mother had in some way short changed them at some point in their lives; whether it be in the childhood like in Julian and Asbury's cases or in their adulthood, like for Thomas. Innocence is also used to describe these three women, either directly or indirectly by O'Connor.
This innocence of sorts was displayed to me in the way the looked or in their physical features. Julian's claimed that "were it not that she [his mother] was a widow who had struggled fiercely to feed and clothe him... she might have been a little girl that he had to take to town" (4), and that "her feet in little pumps dangled like a child's and did not quite touch the floor" (14). Her innocence is generally portrayed in her childlike size and to Julian, many of her actions. Asbury does not describe his mother directly as innocent but at the beginning of that story says, "his mother, at the age of sixty, was going to be introduced to reality, at the age of sixty, was going to be introduced to reality... it would assist her in the process of growing up" (83).
While Mrs. Fox's features are not used to tell the reader of her innocence, her son makes comments in passing about how she, too, has never really grown up. Thomas also does not directly tell us that his mother in child-like and innocent, but after reading the story it can be assumed. By her taking in "the little slut" she is being na " ive, and even admits that she knows she is "nothing but an old bag of wind to her [Star Drake]" (127), yet she still takes her in and tries to help her. This fact, along with many others, lumps his mother in with the other two.
All three women never really grew up. It seems that all three live in a world where there is no pain or suffering, and if by some chance some shows up, they do everything in their power to end the affliction. Eyes are a very predominant, focused upon feature in Flannery O'Connor's stories. In all three stories that we read, the mother's had blue eyes. It said that Julian's mother's "eyes, sky blue, were as innocent and untouched by experience as they must have been when she was ten" (4). This is just another example of how his mother is innocent.
Not exactly the same but very similar are Mrs. Fox's, who's "eyes were as hard as two old mountain ranges seen in the distance" (101). While not exactly sky blue, her eyes are a shade of the same color. Thomas' "mother's eyes... were the blue of great distances after sunset" (117). In the book, Dictionary of Symbols, blue is said to mean "devotion, faith, purity, chastity" (27). All of these things describe the mother's in depth. All three women are full of devotion, especially to their sons, faith, mainly to God, but also to mankind in general, purity, in all that they do, and chastity, since all are single and assumed to be widowed.
O'Connor uses the blue eyes to further connect these background characters who have more in common then what initially meets the eye. In the three stories by Flannery O'Connor that we read for class, the mothers played more important roles then initially thought. They help to shape the story and their sons. Each of them has their own individual qualities, but is very similar to the others. They are all proud of their sons and their achievements, even though these boys feel that they are lacking in one-way or another, are very innocent in all that they do and think, and have many similar outward qualities. These factors put together lead me to believe that O'Connor had the same person in mind when writing each of these stories.
Maybe she used different aspects of the same person, but it would be hard for me to believe that more then one person was in mind when writing these stories. The same innocent, heart-driven, blue-eyed mother was depicted in all three stories, just in slightly different situations. In summary, O'Connor had the same person in mind when writing about the mother in all three of these stories.