Nancy Being example essay topic

A Drunken Mother, wow where do I start. This book really gets one to thinking of what it was and, in some cases is like to be a woman. This book was one of which I would never even think to read just cause of the title. The title to me suggests that it is a book by a woman for a woman and is written in a way for mothers to understand. But in fact it's the opposite it written in a way for all to see the trials her life. Nancy starts off by learning that then man in the house is boss at an early age.

Her mother plays a role of big time neglect and spends most of her time out doing other things such as drinking. At an early age she learned that the man of the house was the boss and what he said goes. It was at this time that she began to fall into the "female role" of doing things the way they were suppose to be done. She also realized that Doctor John was not going to see things her way and that what he wanted was to be.

This young female does all that she can to be successful with skating and what does Doc John do he tries to take it away. The more and more I read the more I wanted to read just because it is a true story and it was a story about the past, not to say that it does not happen now. But I'm into history and study of relationship, how they start, finish, grow, and wither. But getting back to the story I found it very interesting that Nancy tries so hard to make things work that she gives up her goals and inspirations in life just to leave one man with problems just for a chance to be better off and herself. As I was reading into the story I imaged every sentence of every page into a movie and was doing in my own little world in my room trying to block out the constant hum of my computer, ticking of my wall clock and every so often my suite mate checking on me to see if I was finish reading. Why was my suite mate checking on me because he wanted me to join him and another friend in drinking while we watched the Boston Celtics play.

Wow what irony? But I did join them in watching the game but couldn't bring myself to drink. I'd felt bad for Nancy and her dependence of alcohol and how it was messing up her fruitful life and the kids that she had. It was really funny to see these two guys try to get me to drink.

I told them about the book and I just couldn't drink but they just did not understand or they did not want to. "It made me sick to my stomach" just as Nancy often says in the book, to think of drinking. This book that I never thought to read was making a difference in how I lived my life and I'm not a mother nor can I ever be one. Now that's a moving book or movie that was exclusively playing in my mind. This woman is going threw hell trying to get help from so many with no one lending a hand out to help her. Her husband who also had a problem never tried to help her in fact I would say he tried to keep her hooked, by coming home drunk often and sometimes bring alcohol around even after she asked him not to.

There are so many ways for one to ask for help yet no one responded to any of them. She did mentally by always drinking putting her problems in the back of her mind. She does it physically by not taking care of her kids. I mean come on you walk into a house and see that a infant baby is being suffocated and mom is sitting there drunk, I just don't know what else you want them to do to ask for help. Not to mention she came right out to a Navy officer and said "help me, I need help".

It is only her kids that really make an attempt to help Nancy. Now I ask you (the people who looked the other way) who they hell do you think you are asking kids to be the only help and support to someone with these problems. Honestly what do you expect them to do? But I give them a lot of the credit for Nancy being sober because without these kids I don't see Nancy being around much longer.

AA did play a role I cannot go without saying but I took a while for Nancy to buy into the program. One thing that was so weird to me is that it seems to me that she thought that she could not function as a human without the presents of a man in her life. Which is evident threw out the book I can not recall any point of the book where she not involved with a man. Besides the when she was very young. But the constant thing was all these men except Joe, seemed to get her in trouble whether it be in a situation of being poor and living a life she did not want or getting drunk often or being knocked up by so guy who was there just for the ride. And as I type this I think to myself all these guys did was use her.

When I think about it her role was baby maker, babysitter, house cleaner and sex buddy. Not to say she did a lot of cleaning cause she was too messed up to but to a man at this time that's what her role is or it seems. Truly I believe if Nancy would have convinced Joe to stay and marry her she would have been an awesome mother. She would have had her health and safety needs met along with a caring individual who she loved. I know Joe would have gotten her the help she needed with her alcoholism. It's not like was a waste, she was a draftswoman, a person in demand and she had good skills.

Also if she surrounded herself with friends and family I think she would have had her needs met. In conclusion thank you for assigning this book I was one of the most useful books I have read in my four years here. It opened up a whole new world to me. And hopefully it will help me as a man understand what it is like to be a woman.

And to Nancy I say "You go girl.".