Relationship Between Spurgeon And Ray example essay topic

The Ant of the Self Most seventh graders know the principle that oil and water don't mix. No matter how much the solution is shaken or stirred, the water will settle to the bottom and the oil will rise above to the surface. These attributes describing water and oil directly describe the relationship between Spurgeon and Ray, the two main characters in ZZ Packer's "The Ant of the Self". Spurgeon, the "water" and intelligent son of Ray Bivens Jr., finds himself carrying the burden of supporting his self-centered, inappreciative father, the "oil", on his shoulders. Oblivious to his son's needs as well as others in the story, Ray tramples over the true meaning of an intimate relationship and worsens or even crumbles his existing ones.

When thinking about a father and son relationship, one would imagine love, respect, and support, however, in terms of Spurgeon and Ray's relationship, it can be described as a business transaction. Spurgeon supports his father throughout the story although he knows his father's misleading ways. On the other hand, Spurgeon does not get any recognition from his father for being there. For example, at the beginning of the story, Spurgeon bails his father out of jail with his money he earned from debate.

Instead of thanking him and showing his appreciation, Ray says, "Opportunities. You " ve got to invest your money if you want opportunities" (72). Ray already thinks about fast ways of making money and during the car ride, Ray has Spurgeon drive him to Jasper to pick up birds that he will sell at the Million Man March, 700 miles away in Washington, D.C. Spurgeon knows that his father has a plan to make some fast money and advises him that it is a bad plan. Spurgeon also has a debate the next day which he will miss if he drives to Washington, D.C. Ray retorts, "Don't you want your money back? One macaw will pay back that bail money three times over" (74). Knowing that his father is adamant about his bird business, he drives him to Washington, D.C. sacrificing his plans for his father.

Once at the Million Man March, Ray doesn't miss a step using this time to "earn" money. He leaves Spurgeon with a few birds to sell as he walks off with some to sell because he knows that " [They " ll] cover more area if [they " re] split up" (77). Not hurting anyone directly, Ray misuses the meaning of the March. This gathering unites African-American men so that they can rise together to show their brotherhood and from then on work together to appreciate what they have and make the world a better place to live in. Ray sees this march as his opportunity to make quick cash. Not appreciative of the unity of the black man, Ray wants only monetary gains.

Once again Ray's not concerned with the world around him. Evaluating the story at the end, I feel that subconsciously Spurgeon sacrifices his time in hopes to catch a moment with his father that will prove to him that he really cares. For the longest time, Spurgeon would use his debates as a way of avoiding his father, however, this time he doesn't attend to be with his father. Spurgeon's hopes are crushed as he realizes that he will never have a meaningful relationship.

Spurgeon isn't given any thanks for his father's bail, left alone during the march to sell birds, physically fighting with his drunk and belligerent father and left alone to find a bus ride home. At the bus station, Spurgeon sees a father and son enjoying their time together and becomes jealous of what they have. Spurgeon has". ... the urge to weep... ". and". ... [holds his] head in [his] hands... ".

(81). Ray and his encounter with his girlfriend Lupita shows that a small interaction can reveal a big part of someone's personality. Before going to the march, Ray has Spurgeon drive to Lupita's house to pick up the birds. When they arrive, Ray shows no affection or appreciation towards Lupita even though she takes care of his birds. They both go inside and argue as Ray takes the birds away.

Once the birds are packed into the car and Ray and Spurgeon are ready to drive away, Lupita yells, "Joo are never thinking about maybe what Lupita feels!" (75). She then "plop [s] down on her porch step, holding her head in her hands" (75). Here, Lupita shows her frustration with Ray as he takes advantage of her and does not show any sign of remorse. The previous examples show how Ray has a hard time forming meaningful relationships with others around him. He cannot give Spurgeon and Lupita what they really need and this makes his relationship with them rocky. Ray will always be the "oil" in his relationships, making whoever is the "water" carry him on their shoulders.