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Ryan: [reading from an email that he relieved from a fan] '... Hey Ryan, I just want to let you know that your show is great. I listen every morning. I also have a question. I heard Dorothy and Jillian (sp?) from Good Day LA saying that you are single..

' She says, 'Is that true? You " re probably thinking I'm a total stranger, why would I tell you, but like I said I listen every single day. There are times that you and Ellen are disagreeing about something in your relationship. You call your girlfriend Shana, for her opinion.

So me, being a listener of KI IS, I kind of feel like I know you guys. I don't know if that makes any sense to you or not. I just hear you talk about your relationship and how you guys have a little blue paddle, and how she calls you baby. ' This is hard to read. Ellen: hmm... Ryan: [continues reading] 'I was just wondering if you guys were still together?' Okay, just a sec... [silence]...

We, uh, we are not. We are not, we, we, broke up. This is, I, I've been dealing with getting through this all week, and I thought this would be easier but we, uh, we did break up. [pause] After two years of dating, but we, we broke up on good terms. We broke up because both of us have things that we want to pursue. We uh, we have goals of our own. We have been together and had a, a fantastic relationship and we were talking about, you know, where do you go from here?

She's 31, I'm 30. Uh, and it just wasn't the right time in our lives to take the next step. Ellen: Right. Ryan: Um, and so as we had this discussion, we just continued down the path of, well, maybe it's best that right now, uh, we end the dating relationship on fantastic terms and, and remain on good terms, as we, uh, get some perspective on life and relationship and everything else. So, we, we had that conversation last weekend.

We decided to um, to split up, to break up. Ellen: Uh huh. Ryan: We talked every day since. Ellen: Right. Ryan: Because getting through it is, is so hard and in some strange way getting through it with the person makes it a little bit easier.

Ellen: Right, right. Because you can both talk about, 'Oh my god, it's so weird', like, you know, 'I went here and I thought of you' and that kind of stuff. Ryan: Everything in life when, and, and you, you who are in relationships, or who have broken up and gone through a divorce or whatever it may be you know that everything in life is connected to that person. Everything triggers the emotion.

Everything triggers a thought about that person. Ellen: hmm. Ryan: You know... ? Ellen: Right.

Ryan: Everything. So, we decided to break up and that's what we did last weekend. And over the last couple of days, uh, you know, people have been talking about it and it -- Ellen: Well, then Simon said it over national television and that led the girls on Good Day LA, and then it snowballed. And then, then we got all these emails and so I'm glad you addressed it because a lot of people are asking me too, like calling me.

Ryan: Right, right. Well, I understand. I mean I, I didn't want it to create anything awkward between anybody and you guys. I didn't want to have to tiptoe around the conversation about it and quite frankly, I made the decision to share that relationship on this radio program. Ellen: Right. Ryan: And, you know, it is a different relationship now -- Ellen: hmm.

Ryan: And, uh, you know, it, it's still gonna be hopefully a fantastic relationship, but not the same relationship that it was. And I felt it, it in some way, that it was only fair to discuss it here, and be, uh, as open and probably as, as honest as, as I can be. Ellen: And you don't mind if I ask you a couple questions? Ryan: [pause] [low voice] Well, I, I don't know.

Ellen: Well, no, I mean, was this like a sudden thing? Or do, do you feel that maybe you were um, you two were heading in that path for a little while, 'cause I know you spent the holidays together so that -- Ryan: [sounding really sad] We had a great time at the holidays. Ellen: Okay, so that was all good. Okay. Ryan: I think [clears throat] Ellen: So was it... it was, it's, it was just one of those revelations. Ryan: I think it was one of those revelations and, you know, we just didn't fight the feeling of having the conversation and, and it was like, in somehow in someway we were meant to have that conversation.

We were meant to come up with the conclusion that we came up with, and we followed through with it. And, and it is... painful... Ellen: Right. Ryan: It is not easy.

Ellen: How is she doing? Ryan: It is a hard thing to do. Ellen: Is she -- Ryan: Well I'm sure right now she is not enjoying this conversation. Ellen: Well, no... Ryan: I, I told her last night that we were going to have this conversation. Ellen: Right.

Ryan: And she understands that. And she's a, she's one of the most phenomenal people I've ever met. Ellen: Oh, I love Shana. She's great. Ryan: Ya know? And no one did anything wrong.

You know what I mean? As we split up, um, the memories are all fantastic, because no one cheated, no one got into a huge fight, there was no, uh, blow up, an, an awful break up. It was a, you know -- Ellen: It was an adult mature decision. Ryan: We had a very adult conversation about it and just decided to make this decision. For better or for worse, for whatever it's worth. I mean, that's what we decided to do for now, and maybe it will um, change at some point, maybe not.

Ellen: Right. Ryan: But I, you know, I, I just, I care so much about that girl and I love her as a friend too. Ellen: hmm. Well, we all love her. She's a great girl. My husband really loves her.

I mean, he's always said every time that we " ve been out with, with you guys, he's always 'Oh my gosh, she's such a great girl. ' and she's this and she's that. She really is. Ryan: [depressed tone] She is all of that. Ellen: So -- Ryan: Thanks for reminding me. Ellen: Well no, I'm just saying, she's a fantastic person that came into your life... Ryan: Absolutely.

Ellen: ... and that will stay in your life, as, as your best friend. So -- Ryan: You know, I mean relationships are... God they " re so hard, you know? And they, they are just so complicated. Ellen: hmm. For everyone.

Ryan: And I'm so afraid always to get into one. Ellen: Well, see that's the thing... Ryan: I'm always afraid to get into it because there has to be, there has to be something that comes out of it, there has to be the next chapter, there has to be an end. There has to be something. It, it just doesn't exist forever, that, you know, in the same way that it does the day you start dating somebody, or the day you meet somebody. Ellen: Right.

Ryan: It doesn't just go from there and, and never develop, or evolve or have it's ups or it's downs and it's one of the greatest things in life, but also one of the most difficult things in life. And quite frankly... this, right now, is probably the, the most difficult moment I've ever had on a radio program and I've done this for 12 years. Ellen: Right. Well... this is a person who let you... open up to a relationship again, after, you said it had been like, 6 years. And so that's a great thing that came out of it. Really.

Ryan: No, it's true. Ellen: No, it's great. Ryan: No, you " re absolutely right. And you think of all those memories and all the pictures and, and the moments and, and you " re, uh, you " re grateful. [takes a deep breath] Okay. Ellen: Well... Ryan: Sorry.

Ellen: ... Thank you for sharing with us... because, um, I, I think it's best you did. Ryan: Okay. It's 8: 16 at KIISFM, but we will be right back.